Growing up the ‘S’ word was never spoken around me much. Yes, I’m talking about SEX! It wasn’t that it was considered a dirty word or anything like that, it was just a subject no one discussed. Maybe it’s a reflection of the Indian culture in which I grew up in. Of course, that meant I came up with some unique answers to that age-old question, how are babies born? Those ‘answers’ ranged from ‘maybe from a seed’, ‘magic’, ‘too much kissing’, and a divine act of God (those were my thoughts in order from 5 to 12 years of age or so). When I did finally find out what sex was, I couldn’t quite look at my mom and dad the same way for a while (eww.. how could they!). Things didn’t change all that much as an adult. Sex just wasn’t the topic of the day very often (a.k.a never). We would talk about politics, career choices, relationships, fashion trends, but when it came to sex there wasn’t all that much chatter.
What I’m trying to say is that I’m not all that comfortable writing about this. Okay, let’s say it like it is, it’s like pulling teeth for me! And the notion of Jesus, and church, and sex all being said in the same breath feels even more unnatural. I mean how can Jesus and sex go together? It sounds so scandalous! But, it shouldn’t. The truth of the matter is that sex is something that God himself created. And when Pastor Jeff said that God has a claim on every area of my life, even my sexuality, it was a light-bulb moment for me. I had never thought of it that way. In every other area of my life I make an effort to allow Him to lead; whether it be finances, the future, worries about the kids, or even my mundane everyday activities. But, not the area of sex. Truth is, I didn’t think He wanted anything to do with that part of my life. I see now that He does. He is interested in and wants an abundant life for me in EVERY area of my life. That’s how much He loves me…and you.
He loved us so much that He gave us this precious gift. Something, when you think of it, He didn’t need to. I’m sure the God of the universe could have thought of plenty of ways for us to multiply or propagate that didn’t involve any level of enjoyment on our part. Yet He thought of a way that would bring us pleasure. Of course, whatever He gives us we have to go and tread upon. I don’t need to talk about the offhand treatment sex is given in today’s world. But before we shake our heads in disgust and before we pick up the stone to throw at our present over-sexed culture, pause for a moment. Am I without fault? Are you? Matthew 5:28 says, ‘But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman (or man) with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.’ Those are Jesus’ words and by those standards, I don’t think anyone goes scot-free. I certainly don’t. We’ve all had those weak moments. We have all fallen short of the Biblical standards of purity. We’ve all traded that which is a blessing for that which harms.
But there is good news (there always is with Jesus). No matter how far gone in sexual sin you think you are, you aren’t far enough from Jesus. It’s as simple as that. What area are you struggling in? Do you have immoral thoughts? Are you addicted to pornography? Do you struggle to stay sexually pure? Are you hanging your head in shame right now? If you are then remember that God loves you no matter what. Let go of your shame and find someone you trust and talk to them. God wants something much more for you in the area of sexuality than what you have right now. Make Him the Lord of your sexuality today. Even if that notion is a foreign one and feels a little weird. I know I’m taking baby steps towards that!
Betsy Sony is a stay-at-home mom who has the full-time job of looking after 4 beautiful girls. She came to the United States from India along with her husband Sony about 4 years ago and loves all things Skyline, reading, being outdoors, and experiencing new cultures and cuisines.